Emotional processing makes it very clear why avoiding the (negative) thought won’t work. Avoidance keeps you experiencing the thought as dangerous or intolerable, and that sets the stage to retriggering your amygdala. Worried Voice plays the part of the false (but powerful) fear structures in your brain. But the voice of False Comfort is the voice that represents avoidance and distraction, and both of those interfere with emotional processing.
Sally M. Winston, PsyD and Martin N. Seif, PhD
Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts
Winston and Seif co-author a book called Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts. We are hosting Sally Winston, PsyD on our Coffee with the Sarlos show. Not all of our thinking is unwanted or intrusive but when these types of thoughts enter our mind it is important to recognize them and to possess the tools to deal with them effectively. Otherwise, we can become anxious and eventually, over time, depressed. This book explains this category of thoughts through simple, everyday examples so you can identify your own thinking. Once you sort out your healthy thoughts from your unhealthy thoughts, then it becomes easier to acknowledge how your own thinking patterns contribute to your emotional healthiness. Now you can stop blaming outside sources and deal with your own issue. These two explain why nothing so far has worked for you and give you a sizeable toolkit to begin some simple, healthy work. When you are given an easy, simple tool, and an explanation that can help you understand why you should change your current thought, you can take a step. Just repeat this little pattern and eventually your entire thought system changes. And voila, you have more energy. Nothing saps your energy more than your own thinking patterns. This gives you plenty of motivation to read this book, listen to podcasts and invest in yourself. After all, it is simple and your return on your investment is significant. Win/Win.