Fireside Friday 2017-08-21T10:22:41+00:00

Fireside Friday

Catching Feelings

Catching others’ feelings is why some people think that they have too much empathy; they are overly sensitive to others’ feelings and as a result can feel taken over, manipulated, conned, and so on. Sufficient boundary strength permits you [...]

Healing Your Emotional Self By Beverly Engel

Sometimes our inner voice wins all of the battles and the war. You don’t get a voice, or a thought, belief or choice that is entirely of your own self. Sometimes you don’t know where you begin and someone [...]

No Disinfectants Please

More than 95 percent of the world’s bacteria are harmless to humans. Many are extremely beneficial. Disinfectants have no place in a normal household. They are appropriate only if a family member is sick or the dog poops on [...]

Your Consciousness

"Your own consciousness of people in need and your response to them has the primal energy of an act of creation-you steady their spirits, give them the faith to continue and jump-start a new beginning in their life." Invisible [...]

Syncing Your Goals

"If your goals aren’t synced with the substance of your heart, then achieving them won’t matter much.” - The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms by Danielle LaPorte [...]

Changing Me Is Not Your Business

"So often in our relationships, we try to get the other person to behave the way we want. This forcing of our will on them will ultimately become a great strain. It can also block love. When we’re trying [...]

A Love That Awakens the Soul

"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever." - The [...]

The Anger Addict and Hope

"The Anger Addict – The partners of verbal abusers know that explaining what they really said, meant, or did has never brought an apology such as “Oh, I’m so sorry to have snapped,shouted, or yelled at you. Will you [...]

A Prerequisite for Change

"People almost never change without first feeling understood.” - Douglas Stone, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most #FiresideFriday

Preparing to Learn

"Learning that you can’t control the other person’s reaction, and that it can be destructive to try, can be incredibly liberating. It not only gives the other person the space to react however they need to, but also takes [...]

The Good Fear

"He knew sometimes some fear can be good. When you are afraid things are going to get worse if you don't do something, it can prompt you into action. But it is not good when you are afraid that it [...]

Manipulating Reality with Words

"The basic tool for the manipulation of reality is the manipulation of words. If you can control the meaning of words, you can control the people who must use the words” ? David Icke, Human Race Get Off Your [...]

Reflecting Emotions

“Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were.” ? John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You [...]

Believing in Our Own Power

"We don't need to shift our responsibilities onto the shoulders of some deified Spiritual Superman, or sit around and wait for Fate to come knocking at the door. We simply need to believe in the power that's within us, [...]

Flashbacks to Recovery

You cannot make yourself have a flashback, nor will you have one unless you are emotionally ready to remember something. Once remembered, the memory can help you to face more of the truth. You can then express your pent-up feelings [...]

Prescription Drugs

"Too often, prescribed drugs produce no clear benefit, but they are continued as though it might be better than not doing anything." - Healing Young Brains: The Neurofeedback Solution by Robert W. Hill, Phd. And Eduardo Castro, MD [...]

Instinctual Friendships

“There’s a natural instinct embedded in friendship, a sympathy that makes us willing to fight for someone we like when they are treated unjustly.” — The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Old Cues, New Routines

“Rather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine.” — The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Adult ADHD

"The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour and since most children do not outgrow ADHD behaviour, children usually take into adulthood the worst part of the disorder, attentional problems. So the reason we have included a discussion [...]

Be The Minority

"We just urge you to quit being part of the majority who live in confusion and conflict. Join the minority that sees a clear path out of present darkness, that never submits to fear and despair, and that does [...]

An OBE

"To have an out-of-body experience (an OBE) is to bring a new meaning to existence. No other phenomenon is so steeped in mystery, or so potentially empowering." - Joseph Slate author of Astral Projection for Psychic Empowerment [...]

The Soul’s Further Dimensions

In both clairvoyance and astral projection we recognize the mechanics of consciousness in which we see that whole person consisting of multiple bodies or levels; physical, etheric, lower and higher astral, mental and causal – while knowing that beyond [...]

Healing the Shame

“To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you [...]

The Best of FiresideFriday – Love is Not Blind

“We love that you saw, know and supported the post that you made #2 for #firesidefriday : Love Is Not Blind.""What blinds people the most to controlling behavior is the belief that the person who consistently defines them truly loves [...]

The Best of Fireside Friday 2016 – End Gossip

The Best of Fireside Friday 2016 - End Gossip This one was short and sweet and it seemed to resonate quite simply with everyone. “Put an end to gossip.” – Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements # firesidefridayTheBestof2016 [...]

Emotional Abuse

"With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically." Beverly Engel -- The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Don’t Make Assumptions

"Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your [...]

Simply Do Your Best

"Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret." Don Miguel Ruiz – The Four Agreements

This Is What You Did To Me

“The healing process kicks into gear with with the words "This is what you did to me." That statement is not gentle or polite; it's absolutely direct. In fact, I know that seeing it might feel like a punch in [...]

Your Rite to Relationships

“...many daughters may never have given themselves permission to even 'consider' changing the relationship with their mothers, because they didn't think they had the right to do it.” ? Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters

Truth vs. Truth For Now

"For the artist, the goal of the painting or musical composition is not to convey literal truth, but an aspect of a universal truth that if successful, will continue to move and to touch people even as contexts, societies and [...]

The Habit Loop

"This process within our brains is a three-step loop. First, there is a cue, a trigger that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and which habit to use. Then there is the routine, which can be physical or [...]

Confusion’s Control

"Being defined backwards leaves people confused. Backwards connections arise out of the Controller's confusion and oppressive and controlling behaviours create confusion. We cannot exercise our freedom if we are confused." - Patricia Evans, Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and [...]

Habit Is No Friend of Common Sense

"Habits are powerful, but delicate. They can emerge outside our consciousness, or can be deliberately designed. They often occur without our permission, but can be reshaped by fiddling with their parts. They shape our lives far more than we realize [...]

Willpower Habits

"As people strengthened their willpower muscles in one part of their lives – in the gym, or a money management program – that strength spilled over into what they ate or how hard they worked. Once willpower became stronger, it [...]

Resetting Our Habits

"The habits that matter the most are the ones that, when they start to shift, dislodge and remake other patterns." - Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit #firesidefridays

Keynote Habits

"Keynote habits say that success doesn’t depend on getting every single thing right, but instead relies on identifying a few keynote priorities and fashioning them into powerful levers."" - Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit

Stupify

"If the spell cannot be broken, if you are with a spellbound person who will not change; your spiritual, if not your physical survival may depend upon your escaping." - Patricia Evans, Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and Deal [...]

Distress and Discord Explained

"The distress and discord that permeate the lives of millions are clear messages meant to tell us something. Just as a searing physical pain says something is wrong, so, too, does the psychic pain that floats through the world. Whatever [...]

Love Is Not Blind

"What blinds people the most to controlling behavior is the belief that the person who consistently defines them truly loves them." - Patricia Evans, Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and Deal with People who try to Control You

Feelings

"Some people have not learned to know what their feelings mean. Some have been trained not to feel much. And some have been trained not to know that they have feelings." Patricia Evans, Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand and [...]

Save Yourself

"Because of your low self-esteem, you, like many other survivors of emotional abuse or deprivation, have probably searched for something outside of yourself for a sense of completion and a sense of being worthwhile. You may have looked to romantic [...]

An Idea About Rejection

“We don’t have to take rejection as a reflection of our self-worth. If somebody who is important (or even someone unimportant) to you rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as [...]

Locus of Control

"Do you feel that your life is dependent more on the choices other people make than on your own?" - Caroline Myss, Invisible Acts of Power #firesidefriday

Choices

"Is there a choice you need to make at this time in your life that you fear?" - Caroline Myss, Invisible Acts of Power

Consequences of Compassion

"There is no such thing as a simple act of compassion or an inconsequential act of service. Everything we do for another person has infinite consequences." - Caroline Myss, Invisible Acts of Power #firesidefriday

The Weight of A Belief

“In an instant the weight of her own beliefs began to crush her.” - Don Miguel Ruiz, The Toltec Art of Life and Death   #firesidefriday

Expelliarmus!

“You press your internal mute button, power off your schemas, and take a full, unexasperated breath. If appropriate, you masterfully hold the narcissist accountable, or you move on. Where, formerly, your “noisy” mind would have had you feeling flustered, furious, [...]

End Gossip

"Put an end to gossip." - Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements # firesidefriday