Two basic responses to the destructive narcissist are feelings of shame and guilt. Shame results from the feeling and belief of being flawed and unworthy. The self is so flawed and unworthy that one can never be acceptable, and can never overcome the defects. Guilt refers to feelings that are aroused for failure to live up to expectations. Some fundamental principle is violated. With guilt, the person is not necessarily fatally flawed; he or she just did something wrong.