Abusers do not deserve your respect. They need to earn it back, step by slow step. Do not people please them and skip the steps of repairing your relationship because of your own need to be liked by everyone. Stop it (your own bad behavior) and wait for them to show you they have stopped abusing you, CONSISTENTLY. Enjoy the process of seeing them change and if you don’t see this, then they do not ever deserve your respect. Set boundaries.